Anyone who knows me would know that I am an equalist. I believe in spreading love and that everyone should have basic human rights despite their gender, race, sexual orientation, religious beliefs, etc. Since middle school debate, I learned that you should always try to understand where the other side is coming from which is something that I have always carried with me. But there is one exception, where I just feel like the other side is just flat out wrong. The one thing that always seems to get under my skin is when someone says “all lives matter”. I honestly can’t stand it when someone #AllLivesMatter or tries to say something along those lines. Now let me preface this and say all lives do matter but in this context when someone usually says all lives matter they are rebutting the Black Lives Matter movement and that is something I just can no longer sit by and watch.
My disgust for “all lives matter” has been something I have wanted to write about for a while but have continuously convinced myself that it was unnecessary. I have read numerous articles on why people should stop saying “all lives matter” and figured there was enough out there that I didn’t need to speak out on it. But I knew I had to say something when it started to hit home. One day I was in the car with a friend and she spotted a Black Lives Matter sign on someone’s front yard. She told me that she hated it and that all lives matter not just black ones. For me I was really confused because I felt as a black woman and mother of black kids, she should understand the purpose of Black Lives Matter (BLM), and I couldn’t wrap my head around why she didn’t. But then I started to grasp that she truly did mean well, all that she meant was that everyone’s lives mattered just as equally as the next person. As an equalist, on paper it may look as though I would have agreed with her, but there is something people who could be quick to label me as such did not understand.
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