A Few Words About Feminism

What is feminism? I believe feminism is more than believing women and men are equals. It has to also deal with having an understanding that not only can women do anything that men can do, but they also have the choice to not do it as well. If a women decides that she wants to be a stay at home mom, I don’t think she needs to be scolded for her choices, she should be praised for making her own choice rather than just doing what society tells her to do.  According to Webster’s dictionary, feminism “is the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities.” That is by far my favorite definition because of the word opportunities. Feminism is about women having opportunities. I believe that everyone understands that women want equal rights but I think that opportunities implies that you have a choice. When something presents itself you have the choice to accept or decline. With that being said I feel like the feminist movement should be a little bit clearer keeping the conversation on the opportunities women deserve and steering away from the conversations that put our purpose on the back burner.

Feminist comes in all shapes and sizes. No two people are the exact same, so why would anyone including feminist themselves scold another for not being an “ideal” feminist.  I am not even sure how to exactly paint a picture of the what the ideal feminist would look like nor do I even want to entertain the idea (I am pretty sure you can picture it on your own), but I do know one thing for sure, she is not real. So ladies and gentlemen (yes men can be feminist too), let’s be a little bit nicer to our fellow feminists and instead of scolding them for having a different outlook on the movement, let’s praise each other for standing united.

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Women Can Be Happily Single

I am single. I plan on staying single for a while because I’m 21 turning 22 so why the hell not. I feel like this is the time where I get to just be me and I’m not apart of an us or we. I don’t have a problem being single but every time I tell people I get pretty interesting responses. People seem to be so surprised that a girl chooses to be single. I’ve told a friend of mine that I planned on staying single and he replied with a quick but firm “mm hmm” as if I were lying. What reason would I have to lie. This friend of mine is very much single, and so are most of his friends. Yet it seemed to be strange, that me, a girl was also happy being single.

Anyone who knows me, knows I love third wheeling. It’s a nice way to see your friend with their significant other in natural settings and it’s just a nice way to have a fun time with your friend who doesn’t have to worry about splitting time between the important people in their life. With that being said my best friend has occasionally let me tag along with her and her boyfriend.  I never thought much about it, but I guess it caught the eye of her boyfriend’s roommate, who thought it was weird how I seemed to be in content with the situation. One day he asked if I was honestly OK with being the third wheel. I replied “yeah, I love it.” I guess he still didn’t believe me because his next six words were something I was no stranger to, he proceeded to tell me “we need to find you someone.”  All I could think was “didn’t I just tell you I was happy.” I couldn’t understand why everyone was having such a hard time believing that a girl in her twenties could actually be happy being single.

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